Let’s have a chat about the phrase, “First world problems”.
I hate the term.
“First world problems” is a term that I learned a couple
years ago, I suppose; it generally is accepted to mean, “The problems of
privileged people from first world nations who are complaining about things
that, when put into the perspective of third-world citizens’ issues, are
insignificant.”
Examples:
“Mom and Dad will only pay for me to have a compact car
after high school and I really wanted a sports car.”
“My Starbucks latte was totally made with the wrong syrup.”
“I’m stressed out because I can’t afford that limited
edition Batman lamp with Bruce Timm signature!”
Okay, so I get it: people whine about a lot of things that
are actually pretty irrelevant in the grand scheme of life. But this term
really drives me nuts, and I dislike how people bandy it about, using it to
shut people up when they’re talking about their problems. It occurred to me
recently, when my boyfriend (of all people) used the term to shut me up, that this could be a simple
matter of perspective and knowledge. Let’s look at something together:
MASLOW’S HIERARCHY OF NEEDS
credit: wikipedia |
This is Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. In a nutshell, the
psychologist Abraham Maslow proposed a hierarchy of needs back in 1943. It
basically said that, as a person’s basic needs are met, s/he will move on to
different types of needs and concerns. For instance, once Joey’s need for food
and shelter is met, he’s going to find himself seeking companionship…then
something to do with his time where he’ll excel…then maybe he’ll take up a
hobby...then maybe he'll start becoming involved in local politics or volunteering.
Generally speaking, this is the basis of why we have counsellors
for unhappy people. When I worked at a drop-in centre for homeless teens, I
spent a lot of time meeting the most basic of needs—food, water, sleep—for kids
who were at their lowest point. But it wasn’t long before those same kids, now
warm and fed and rested, were heard whining about needing a cel phone. Is this
because they’re suffering from “first world problems” syndrome? Or is it
perhaps because the next tier on Maslow’s scale shows that family is important—and
that a cel phone may be the way that a homeless kid stranded in Ottawa talks to
his aunt out in Halifax?
WHY MASLOW’S HIERARCHY MATTERS
You can use Maslow’s pyramid to determine the wellbeing and
functioning of an entire culture. Why do we have agriculture? Because people
were warm and well fed, and had familial groups to support them, while they
dreamt up new ideas like plows and seed storage. Because our ancestors had the
luxury of worrying about “first world problems”, you are now sitting in a
chair, enjoying a wheat beer and eating a sandwich. If everyone who worried
about “first world problems” was told to button their lip, we’d be awfully
short on MRI machines, power plants, polio vaccines, and airplanes.
You can measure a culture’s wellbeing by the number of its
citizens who have the time to worry about “first world problems”. The more
people whose major concerns in a day are high up the scale, the higher the
likelihood that that culture is a developed nation. You'll also notice that it's only at the upper rungs of the pyramid that a person starts to worry about morality and ethics--meaning that, if we didn't get to a level of wellbeing and security that makes us "first worlders", we probably wouldn't have the mindshare to worry about the other, less fortunate people on earth.
WHAT YOU MIGHT ACTUALLY MEAN WHEN YOU SAY ‘FIRST WORLD PROBLEM’
What I think people might actually mean when they’re condemning
people for having “first world problems” is that they’re being selfish, and the
assumption is that the complainer doesn’t have any thought for his fellow
humans who don’t even have, say, a cel phone to accidentally drop in the toilet
and then mourn for. I suppose that’s true, but I can imagine that even Bono
occasionally gets annoyed that his socks get eaten by the dryer; I bet Bill
Gates occasionally returns a macchiato for being too sweet. And both these men
together have done more for their fellow humans than most of us could ever do
in our lifetimes. Combined.
Bill Gates has donated over $28 Billion to his foundation; he still likely gets annoyed when he's cut off in traffic. |
I find the “first world problem” phrase to be terminally
negative. It implies that you’re somehow sinful for having concerns above the
bottom rung of Maslow’s pyramid. If I live in Bangladesh and I’m worried about getting
a job after the collapse of my Joe Fresh sweatshop, does that make me a whiner
compared to the man in Angola who’s worried about finding food? Of course it
doesn’t.
Human problems are nuanced, highly subjective, and cannot be
judged by the outsider. Otherwise, when I’d been a practicing counsellor, I
would have only been working on food and shelter concerns, not listening to
hours of people agonizing over choosing a religion, passing college exams,
leaving bad boyfriends, and hearing voices. Never, in the course of a session,
did I stop the person in distress, put up a hand, and say, “Wow, that sure
sounds like some first world problems.”
WHAT ARE YOU REALLY TRYING TO SAY?
I think what people really are trying to say is, “Be
grateful”. And I’m totally cool with that message. When I’m complaining that I
lost my job and don’t know what’ll happen next, I do eventually calm down and
remember that I’m grateful to live in a country where I can cohabitate with a
male roommate to help pay the mortgage, and that our country offers employment
insurance. Again, though, it’ll be about how you present it: if I was talking
with a person in similar distress, I think I would offer a hug, sympathize with
the crisis, and say simply, “Remember your gratitudes. They’ll keep you
grounded.”
I’m suggesting we all stop damning each other for having “first
world problems”, and instead let’s work on supporting each other—wherever we
live, and whatever we worry about.
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